A nice reminder

I read this on the Becoming Minimalist blog…I enjoyed the reminder of simplicity.
Below is a cut and paste version, for the full blog, click on this link.

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“Designing a simple life invites us to measure our lives differently. We realize as we pare down that we don’t have to keep up. We don’t have to buy, borrow, upgrade, or upsize to secure our place in the world.

5 Better Ways to Measure Your Life

1. Gratitude.
With a measure of gratitude, you gain the world. When you are grateful for what you already have, you don’t need more. Gratitude is always enough.

2. Generosity.
To measure the man, measure his heart.” Malcolm Forbes once said.
A great gift of simple living is the freedom to give. The infinite freedoms available when we design a life of less allows for infinite ways to be generous. Whether it’s with our time, money, talents, hospitality, donations, or airline miles—when the measuring stick of things ends, generosity keeps growing.

3. Contentment
Contentment is not the satisfaction of want; it’s the pursuit of having enough. And it invites an unmistakable freedom into our lives.

4. Availability
Busyness is no way to measure a life. Busy is a thief. It’s a phantom measure of worth and success and it will never get as much done as availability will. Remain available. Learn to say no, and measure your life by the things you get to say yes to.

5. Purpose
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” Ralph Waldo Emerson is quoted as once saying.

If we pay too close attention to how the world measures life we will never understand the difference that our life, our one life, can make. Simplicity of home, time, and character magnifies the very things we were designed for—it points us to the significance of who we are.

We are purposed for much more than our net worth and closet size. Simplify and live well.

The Great Recession of 2008 changed us. More and more people are looking for a new way, a simple way to live. As advertisers revamp their messages toward this post-recession culture, we can redefine the measure by which we live. It helps to remember the best things in life can’t be pitched in thirty second ads.”

 

 

 

 

https://www.becomingminimalist.com/better-ways-to-measure-your-life/

It can be tough

I read this yesterday and wanted to copy and paste it so my readers can just read it! In this world of sleek advertising and media telling us what we should do, look like and achieve I loved reading this about the ‘normal’ people, those of us living each day as it is.  May you be encouraged and inspired.

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It is from Joshua Beckers Blog   http://www.becomingminimalist.com/bad-situation/

Here’s to All of You Trying to Make the Most of a Bad Situation

I have a beautiful friend. She is the single-parent of two equally beautiful daughters. Her husband left when the second was born with special needs.

Coincidentally, my neighbor is a single father of two. His wife left him, choosing a life of drugs over a life of responsibility.

My guess is you will never hear the names of these two amazing individuals. You’ll probably never read their blogs or follow them on Facebook. And their faces will probably never be on the cover of a magazine. But I can tell you, without a doubt in my mind, they both work harder at life than I do.

This past Saturday, I got up early to do some work on a new book. In the early morning hours while the sun was still rising, I drove to a quiet location to write. Enroute, I passed a young man, significantly overweight, out jogging. He was sweating profusely. And I was inspired because of it.

His body-shape isn’t the type you’ll see on posters in the local fitness center. But here was a guy, up early on a Saturday morning, working hard to change his life while most of my neighbors were still sleeping.

One more story.

Last week, a colleague of mine led a funeral for a friend who had recently died of a drug overdose. The deceased was a young man who had been born addicted to heroin.

Through no fault of his own but because of the actions of his mother, he waged war against addiction every day of his life. Some days, he won. Some days, he lost. In the end, it took his life.

As my colleague shared his story, he summed it up this way:

Our lost friend will, unfortunately, be remembered by most as a drug addict. But that’s not the man I knew. Quite the opposite in fact. I will remember forever my friend as the man who fought endlessly against an addiction unfairly passed onto him. I will remember him as a man who worked hard to make the most of a bad situation.

Our world loves to glorify beautiful people. We look up to and praise those who have seemingly accomplished much in visible measures. We lift up as role models and examples those who excel in sports, write books, own the stage, or excel in business and politics. And I don’t want to look down on those accomplishments and those examples, there is much we can learn from them.

But let’s face it: Life can also be messy. And not everybody gets to live in the limelight as one of the beautiful people. Some people find themselves struggling to just tread water through very difficult circumstances.

Sometimes, the trials we face in life are a result of our own doing. Sometimes they are a result of a wrong committed against us. But there is little doubt we are surrounded by people facing unfair circumstances in every direction we look.

And many of them, those fighting to make the most of it, deserve our respect and our praise. But they are often overlooked by a society that often praises all the wrong measures of success.

So allow me today… in my own small little way… to recognize those of you who are working hard to make the best of a bad situation. We see you and we applaud you.

Here’s to those of you raising kids without the support of a responsible partner.

Here’s to those of you striving to overcome the cycle of poverty or addiction in your family.

Here’s to those of you working two jobs to provide your children with more opportunity than you had growing up.

Here’s to those of you working to change the unhealthy habits that have defined your life for too long.

Here’s to those of you who have been treated unfairly in the workplace and are working hard to start again.

Here’s to those of you battling a disease that seeks to destroy your body.

Here’s to those of you caring faithfully for a loved one who is nearing the end.

Here’s to those of you who have been knocked down by life, but are staggering to get back up.

We see you and we applaud you.

Not only that, we also thank you. Thank you for inspiring us. And thank you for working hard to make life better—not just for yourself, but for those closest to you. We need more people like you in our world.

time to connect

Sometimes I get to the end of the day and realise I have hardly had a chance to connect with the people who live in my house! They may have been out at sport practice, music rehearsals or completing homework tasks. Yet, I know that is what parenting is all about -relating, being there, connecting.

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Why is it we are so busy rushing around and busily being, but not purposefully connecting?

I was amazed and encouraged by this very short clip to think about connecting. It is thought provoking – I hope you enjoy it.
Click here to view it.

R x

Just breathe

Our world moves at a fast pace.  Each day we experience a myriad of emotions and some are harder to control than others.

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I watched this short clip that showed 6 year old kids explaining anger and what can be done.  I wasn’t angry when I started watching it and I wasn’t angry when I finished watching it, but I was definitely more relaxed and mindful by the end.

Just Breathe      (Click on the blue writing to watch – I think you will enjoy it!)

A great clip to show your family  – and kids at school – if you are a teacher!
Enjoy Rx

 

How was your day?

One of the things I have noticed as we all go back to routine and school is that it can be difficult finding out about the happenings of the day.  The question of ‘How’s you day been?’ is often a monosyllabic, negative answer as it is usually asked at a time when the kids are hungry and tired!  I end up getting a negative, limited window into their day.

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I came across these questions that I thought would be fun to try instead:

Who was kind to you today?
What brought you joy or laughter today?
What was your favourite part of the day? Why?

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Photo credit: grace

I’m looking forward to trying these tonight!
(The kid’s might roll their eyes at me, but I’m willing to take the risk!)
R x

A new year

So the school year has begun.  Lots of new starts and experiences happening all at once.  Kids coping with change, adults coping with change and together supporting each other by listening and ‘being there’.

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During the holidays I drove past a surf shop that had a black board out with the words
“The best surfer out there is the one having the most fun.”

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Having a car load of kids as we drove past, all at varying skill levels of surfing this was such a great encouraging statement.  Then, as we talked about it, we realised that it wasn’t  just about surfing, it could be applied to most areas of life.
Sure, life is not all about fun, but it can be very easy to get caught up in the seriousness of life and miss the fun moments.  It can be very easy in life to get caught up in the competition and comparisons of life and miss doing things because of fear of failing.

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The ‘best’ Mum – or Dad or sister or brother or grandparent or friend- may be the one having the most fun.
The ‘best’ musician – insert any musical instrument here –  may be the one having the most fun.
The ‘best’ sportsperson – insert any sport here – may be the one having the most fun.

Really the list could go on. As school and extra-curricula activities start, may you be encouraged to give things a go and have fun doing it.

“The best surfer is the one having the most fun!”

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Photo Credit: jongordon.com