I’m back!

It has been awhile, but it is great to be back here in this space. Since writing last time I have started a Life Coaching course.  As part of the course I have had to be coached and it has amazed me the clarity it has brought to my thinking.

Sometimes it can be daunting to have an online presence, the social media world can seem so crowded.
But today, as one of my gorgeous teenage sons braved the crowded surf at Byron Bay for the first time, some words came to me: 


“Once you find yourself in the crowd, you find your own space.”

May you ponder and enjoy finding your space.

Welcome to this space of encouragement and kindness
Rebekah x



As I was preparing a workshop, the concept of self-care came to mind.  I don’t know about you, but it is something that I find difficult at times and as I researched it, I found that it appears I am not alone!  I want to share here some snippets I found!  The full article is linked here.
May you find some self-care time today. R x


“in order to truly mother others well, one must first mother themselves. This does not always mean getting massages and going on girls’ trips–which is all wonderful and well needed–but it is about learning how to nurture and nourish yourself on a daily basis.

Nourishing yourself in the madness of motherhood, in our age of constant digital connection, is as important as ever. You can begin in small, simple ways. But they can make a world of difference in how you feel, and, in turn, how your family feels.

The power of rituals: Beginning or ending your day with a daily ritual helps to give you time to sit and reflect. My daily ritual is my coffee time in the morning. It is not just about the delicious flavor, it is about taking a little time in the morning to sit and relax. I tell my kids, “this is mommy’s time.” It is 15 minutes of peace. A daily ritual can be your morning or afternoon tea, a brisk 15-minute walk or even doing a self-foot massage at the end of the night. It is more about taking the time to honor yourself and relax.

Nourish your spirit: A very important aspect of nurturing yourself is to simply do the things that make you happy. It is these simple yet profound things that nourish your soul. Trying taking a class to simply taking time once a week to paint or doing a hobby that you love. You can take time to plant or join a book club. Learn how to meditate (try an app like Headspace or other quiet guided exercises). Invest in your own journey.

Give yourself a mental break. Nourishing yourself means instilling good, positive thoughts that help lift yourself up. Often times, mothers can be way too critical (of themselves!) for their own good. At the end of the day, pat yourself on the back and say good job for being a great mom. Just articulating those words, even silently to yourself, can go a long way towards a more positive mental state.

Nourish yourself through food: Food is such an important aspect of self-care. I had such a great diet before my children and once I had kids I found myself skipping breakfast and eating their left overs at dinner time. Take time out and eat good nutritious food. Prioritize healthy eating for you as much as you emphasize it for your kids! Then eat with your children and make food time family time. Food helps to stabilize mood, nourishes your energy and keeps you balanced.

Get your Zzz’s: Mothers often stay awake to get all the things they need to do done or to have their down time. But sleep is essential to repair our bodies and enables you feel replenished to deal with the demands of motherhood. Make sure to not eat dinner within two hours before sleeping and avoid TV, computer and phone use right before going to bed. This is easier said than done. Try putting your phone out of reach of your bedside table, and try chatting –in real life!–the person lying next to you. And then, hit the hay: Good sleep means good stable energy and mood the next day.

Get help! I find many mothers feel guilty getting help. But in order to be a balanced mother, you can’t do it all. No one can. If you find yourself crazed at the end of the day, then it is time to think about how others can help you. It can mean hiring a mother’s helper to asking your husband or partner or family members to pitch in around the house in new ways.”

kind words

It is a long time since I last wrote, and I have really missed it. Time has been of essence as I increased my work time this year. I have really missed not taking the time to read and reflect on the lifestyle habits that make such a difference to our well-being. I have discovered that for me sharing these habits is part of my well-being!

One of the things that I have noticed as my world has got busier with more deadlines and tighter time-frames is that my words are not always as kind and encouraging as I would like.  A kind word is a beautiful and power thing. I was reflecting that in my parenting I have so many opportunities to make a difference with a timely kind word!

The minimalist wrote about this recently and I want to share that here, with this community.  May you be encouraged and inspired in your speaking of kind words to those around you.

“Please don’t forget today that a kind word can speak power into someone’s life. It can inspire. It can motivate. And it can provide strength to someone who can’t find it within themselves.”



The full post can be read here at this link  – it is a nice short story of what happened for him.


Read a book.

“She loved balmy August evenings.  Loved walking barefoot across the beach, the touch of the fading sun on her skin and the soothing sensation of warm sugar sand sifting through her toes…”  (An August Bride)

We are towards the end of what has seemed a cold, long winter.  These words brought back such nice memories and nice hopes of things to come!


I wasn’t surprised recently to read that reading a book can increase ones life span and sense of well being.

Watch a 50 second clip…

“Josie Billington, Senior Lecturer and Deputy Director of the Centre for Research into Reading, University of Liverpool, helped to conduct this research. She explains that reading can help to improve well-being:

“Reading not only helps to introduce or reconnect readers to wider life systems and more broadly shared meanings. It can also remind people of activities or occupations they once pursued, or knowledge and skills they still possess, helping to restore their sense of having a place and purpose in the world,” she writes.

“It can also remind people of activities or occupations they once pursued, or knowledge and skills they still possess, helping to restore their sense of having a place and purpose in the world.”” (World Economic Forum)

May I encourage you to make time, find a book and enjoy.  Encourage those around to read too, it’s just an all round great activity!


Photo Credit: reloveplanet.com



Recently I was privileged to run a workshop with some parents on ‘Kids and Anxiety’.  I always feel humbled by these parents who attend and who want to know more for their families.  As I researched material and was thinking about the increase of anxiety in both adults and kids lives, I was thinking about the way we are continually bombarded with images and stories of amazing people doing amazing things and the way it is so easy to feel like we are missing out and then anxiety slips in.

We are living in world where we actually have to fight to stay content as there is always bigger and better, but to be aware of that fact actually helps in the pursuit of contentment and simple living . As we pursue this, it helps our families to be able to appreciate the simple things in life and as this happens, anxiety can be reduced.

img_6976“The world we live in is not friendly to the pursuit of minimalism. Its tendencies and relentless advertising campaigns call us to acquire more, better, faster, and newer. The journey of finding simplicity requires consistent inspiration.”   Josh Becker


Spoon fed generation

I saw recently that parenting expert Michael Grosse has put out a new book called “Spoonfed Generation, How to Raise Indepedent Children”. When there are books that catch my eye I like to do a Google search and read excerpts online.  I really enjoyed looking at this particular book.  Grosse quotes another parenting expert that I found very thought provoking.  It is  relevant to parenting, teaching and people in general.

“Never regularly do for a child the things a child can do for himself.”

(Maurice Balson, the Australian parenting pioneer and author of Becoming Better Parents…this is what he was fond of telling aspiring teachers and parent educators.)


A nice reminder

I read this on the Becoming Minimalist blog…I enjoyed the reminder of simplicity.
Below is a cut and paste version, for the full blog, click on this link.


“Designing a simple life invites us to measure our lives differently. We realize as we pare down that we don’t have to keep up. We don’t have to buy, borrow, upgrade, or upsize to secure our place in the world.

5 Better Ways to Measure Your Life

1. Gratitude.
With a measure of gratitude, you gain the world. When you are grateful for what you already have, you don’t need more. Gratitude is always enough.

2. Generosity.
To measure the man, measure his heart.” Malcolm Forbes once said.
A great gift of simple living is the freedom to give. The infinite freedoms available when we design a life of less allows for infinite ways to be generous. Whether it’s with our time, money, talents, hospitality, donations, or airline miles—when the measuring stick of things ends, generosity keeps growing.

3. Contentment
Contentment is not the satisfaction of want; it’s the pursuit of having enough. And it invites an unmistakable freedom into our lives.

4. Availability
Busyness is no way to measure a life. Busy is a thief. It’s a phantom measure of worth and success and it will never get as much done as availability will. Remain available. Learn to say no, and measure your life by the things you get to say yes to.

5. Purpose
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” Ralph Waldo Emerson is quoted as once saying.

If we pay too close attention to how the world measures life we will never understand the difference that our life, our one life, can make. Simplicity of home, time, and character magnifies the very things we were designed for—it points us to the significance of who we are.

We are purposed for much more than our net worth and closet size. Simplify and live well.

The Great Recession of 2008 changed us. More and more people are looking for a new way, a simple way to live. As advertisers revamp their messages toward this post-recession culture, we can redefine the measure by which we live. It helps to remember the best things in life can’t be pitched in thirty second ads.”