Last week my 12 year old son had his first school social, which they were expected to attend. It was a TV theme dress up social and being a household that does not watch very much TV it was not easy to settle on a costume. Anyway we got there and Noah looked very handsome as Matt Preston from Master Chef! When we arrived there were no easy parks for the car so I checked with Noah if he was ok for me to do a ‘drop and run’ as I needed to get home quickly. There were many other parents milling around and children being escorted, but Noah said he would be fine! I glanced in the rear view mirror as I drove off and he made a lonely figure walking up the path!
Just before Noah went to bed, I apologised that I hadn’t been able to take him in. Noah’s response got me thinking! He said he had felt funny in the tummy and nervous going but then he felt brave! Noah then added that it was good to feel brave!
Often I think of bravery in terms of bravery award medals and conquering danger. But what of those little moments of bravery, going alone to a lecture, riding your bike somewhere new, even walking into a social by oneself!
Do we give our kids opportunities to be brave? Do we recognise the brave things that they do? What brave things do you do personally?
Below is some information about bravery from “A Primer in Positive Psychology” by Christopher Peterson Page 142, 143
The 24 Character strengths are organised into 6 core virtues. One of the core virtues is titled ‘strengths of courage’. There are 4 strengths that fit clearly into this virtue – authenticity, bravery, persisitence and zest.
“Bravery: not shrinking away from threat, challenge, difficulty, or pain; speaking up for what is right even if there is opposition; acting on convictions even if unpopular; includes physical bravery but is not limited to it.”