It is magpie swooping season here. That means that the magpies have babies in their nests and they don’t like things that go under them, including people on bikes!! My 12 year old son was riding home from his tennis final and he got swooped! Not just swooped, but hit on his bike helmet and not just once but 3 times!
If you have ever had this happen to you, you would understand that it is actually quite frightening. Noah went down a side street, found a man who was washing his car on the front lawn and between tears asked him what to do! He kindly told him to wave his arm above his head and keep riding!
So, off brave Noah went. Fortunately the magpie had moved on and it didn’t swoop again! Needless to say when Noah arrived to the safety of home he shed a few more tears, had a big hug and we discussed the situation in a positive light. ie how well he handled it and that he had what it took to keep going.
“Being positive is compatible with being realistic. It does not mean expecting only positive outcomes, but having confidence that even if things don’t go your way, you will be able to deal with the situation (or even somehow benefit from it”) (Popovic, 2005) (Boniwell Positive Psychology in a Nutshell page 25)
As I thought about swooping magpies and this quote I realised the amazing situation we are in to help kids and friends to look on situations in a positive light. That is not to say that we brush their situation aside, but perhaps we can help them as we listen to see some positives?
When kids talk to us, sometimes they just need to be able to see another side to the situation.