whole heartedness

It has been a different week for me. Time away as a family on a term time weekend, my boys first sports day in a ‘real stadium with a real running track’, losing direction and encouragement in what ever it is I am meant to be doing, topped off by the mixed emotions brought to surface after meeting with high school friends some of whom have not be seen for 10 or so years!

I sat down today to write an overdue blog – that is after fighting the thoughts of ‘why am I doing this any way?’ and found myself encouraged after reading an interesting introduction to a book by researcher Brene Brown “The gifts of imperfection: letting go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are”.

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Whole heartedness is what she is working through. Whole heartedness meaning ‘people living and loving with their whole heart’. Brene considered what people who live this way do, and don’t do. What does it take to cultivate and what gets in the way.

She came up with a list of what wholehearted people seem to do and what they don’t.

Do: worthiness, rest, play, trust, faith, intuition, hope, authenticity, love, belonging, joy, gratitude, creativity

Don’t: perfection, numbing, certainty, exhaustion, self sufficiency, being cool, fitting in, judgment, scarcity

I found this list challenging, confronting and worth pondering. How do these ideas fit in our society? How do we teach and model these concepts to our kids and classes? How do I personally live these values?

Brene then follows this up with an interesting sentence
“How much we know and understand ourselves is critically important, but there is something that is even more essential to living a wholehearted life: loving ourselves.”

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As I look at myself today, I realise that is a key to so much. It comes back to love again.
It comes back to the idea that education is important but it is much harder if kids don’t have self-respect and love.

See if you can find time today to look at yourself, look at your class, look at your kids can you help them with an aspect of the ‘do’ list and are you able to help them love themselves in some small way?

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8 thoughts on “whole heartedness

  1. Lovely Blog Mum! Your doing a great job. πŸ™‚
    Lots of love, Noah xxxxxxoxoxoxoooxoxoxxxoxoxxoxoxxxxoxooxooxoxoxoxoxxxoxox
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  2. How can we be a role model for those coming behind, & provide a safe place for others (especially anyone younger than me- which at the moment seems a lot!!!) to be themselves, if we are not ‘ourselves’. This seems so obvious but is hard to do, thanks for the reminder Rebekah, πŸ™‚

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    • That need to be ourselves is so true. I agree it can be so hard, especially with so much media saturation that at times seems to be wanting to clone us! We have to keep ‘keeping up the good fight!’
      R xx

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