Smile

Before I start week 5 of my Positive Psychology course I wanted to continue with my blogging and summarise Week 4 –  which was last week and which unfortunately I ran out of that precious commodity of time to blog.

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Week 4 was about love. Love is part of our most important bonds, but as a society we have almost put it on a pedastool as a super important emotion. Love can be small, it does not have to be big. It can be momentary and over time built up. It can be a micro – moment that then helps to build a healthy sense of connection…

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The term used when one feels love and connection is ‘Positivity Resonance’. For these moments to happen, a person needs to feel safe and connected. The connection needs to be face to face or actually talking on the phone, there needs to be a ‘real time’ sensory connection as so much is portrayed in the embodied emotions. ( There is a challenge for our world today with the texting, intagram and other means of communication – one is not building the ‘positive resonance’.)

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The smile is a very important part of building positive resonance. In a brief moment it can do so much and yet it is not a costly investment. As a smile is shared, there is a moment of shared positivity which then can provide the opportunity for a person to ‘broaden and build’.

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My ‘take away’ thought from the studies this week is how important and underestimated the power of a simple smile is. I want to be sharing a smile with everyone!

“The smile is a ‘hook’ that creates a moment that nourishes us all.”
Barbara Fredrickson

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Emotions

Today I started an on-line study course in Positive Psychology. The course is led Dr Barbara Fredrickson and goes for 6 weeks. I think each week I will blog a little of what I have learnt.

Today’s topic was looking at ’emotions’.

I just received a text that contained information that showed one of my boys had been left out of some friends social plans. I was surprised at how it made me feel. There was a flash of anger, a negative response of ‘Who cares anyway!’ and a slight increase in my heart rate.

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Now, in some ways these responses make sense.  Emotions are embodied, they affect our hearts, our muscle tension, the way we carry ourselves plus much more. They are not just a private experience but broadcast what we feel.

There are negative and positive emotions. The negative often seem strong but not always the positive. Research has shown that there are more good things going on than bad, but we need to be trained to let the positive events become positive emotions i.e. notice and appreciate the positive events that are there.

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Fish do not see the water. In the same way we can experience something positive most of the time –  like feeling comfortable – but not actually see it as a positive thing.

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I am hoping to look for those positive ‘little’ things that are there, but that I miss. I am also hoping to encourage my own kids in it. Maybe you can give it a go?

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