a thought for the week in this busy season..

My apologies for not writing recently. The end of the school year was a great but busy time!

My diary had this quote for this week and I thought I would share it with you all!

“Happiness is like a butterfly the more you chase it, the more it will elude you.
But if you turn your attention to other things,
it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.”

Blessings for this special Christmas season.
Rebekah x

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Photo Credit: santabanta.com

Christmas present expectations

The conversation around many Mums at the moment seems to involve fitting in the Christmas shopping and finishing it off. I sit there feeling a bit worried as I have not thought about it yet. Today I had some time to begin thinking and then, in my email box was a blog from Joshua Becker – The Minimalist – writing about Christmas giving. I appreciated what he had to say …

“We have made an intentional decision to still give our kids Christmas presents and their grandparents do the same. We see gift-giving as an appropriate expression of love. From us, our kids receive one thing they want, one thing they need, and one experience to share with the family.”

The above is Becker telling in an interview how he does Christmas with his family. The reporter then asked if his kids are disappointed with the gifts and how it works. Interestingly he used the opportunity to write about our response as adults to not set kids up for disappointment on Christmas day. Such an interesting concept in our materialistic world!

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Photo Credit: wpcg.ca

“No. I don’t think they are disappointed on Christmas morning. Maybe they were a little bit the first time, but now they have come to expect it.”

We are very open with our kids about our approach to Christmas and how many gifts they will receive. They know what to expect before the morning even arrives.

Conversely, when we exchange gifts with our extended family, disappointment actually has a better opportunity to arise. There is great anticipation. Nobody knows how many gifts are going to be unwrapped or how much money was spent… but you can almost always bet, in the kids’ mind, there will not be enough.

This holiday season, let’s be intentional about the expectations we set for our kids. Talk less about the gifts under the tree. And talk more about family and friends and faith. Promise fun with the cousins and the joy of being together with family. If you have decided to cut back on holiday gifts this year, tell your kids why—before you sit down around the tree.
Set healthy expectations. Maybe we can avoid holiday disappointment. Even better, maybe we can bring the focus of Christmas back to where it belongs.”
Please click here to read the whole blog that discusses the way we may unknowingly set our kids up for disappointment.

So, happy Christmas shopping, but also happy Christmas experiences and relating and, for me, vey much personally it is such a happy time of realising the birth of Jesus- the Saviour or our world!

Photo Credit: 21stcenturykeeperat the home.

Photo Credit: 21stcenturykeeperat the home.

 

A Christmas thought for the weekend…already?!

In my part of the world Christmas coincides with the end of the school year and Summer holidays. It can be an incredibly hectic time with Christmas parties, end of school break-ups and late evenings. It is exhausting and not uncommon for people to look forward to it being over.  We had an evening commitment last week and in my mind I was thinking
“Oh no, here we go, it has started already!”

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A few days later I was talking to a friend who said, “I just love this time of the year, there are so many lovely events happening, so many opportunities to catch up with friends and spend time with family. I just love it.”

Then a few days after that I was talking to a staff member at school who was helping me plan and make some Christmas decorations with the class. In conversation she said, “I just love Christmas with all the fun art and craft things that can be done, making them here at school and then making with the kids at home. It is such a lovely time, I just love it.”

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Photo Credit: sevencherubs.com

So, as we approach the Christmas season this year, we have a choice how to see the events and time.
I am thankful that these lovely ladies spoke their thoughts and attitudes in such a positive way – it has certainly challenged me!

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Photo Credit: mindwatch.com

 

A thought for the weekend – love

Love is receiving an unexpected gift that shows the giver really knows you.

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Love is sharing the ups and downs of life and laughs with friends over a home-cooked meal in their neck of the woods.

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Love is playing Uno with the kids and laughing as the cumulative score sky-rockets.

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Love is the husband carrying a heavy backpack around Sydney (full of families clothes) as we enjoy the sights.

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Love is being picked up at the airport by a sister amongst her crazy, busy day.

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Love is Jesus coming to earth for me.

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…… and the way to receive love isn’t to wrap anything up — but to unwrap your heart. (http://www.aholyexperience.com/2013/12/what-to-do-when-you-have-no-idea-how-get-ready-in-time-for-christmas)

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This, the weekend before Christmas, may you and your family ‘unwrap’ your heart and see signs of love around you.