Dad’s who do dishes….

I read this article and thought from a parenting point of view it was interesting! There’s so many reasons why the housework should be shared by the whole family.

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“Dads who equally divided the drudgery of household chores with their wives tended to have daughters whose “when I grow up” aspirations were less gender-stereotypical, suggests an upcoming paper in Psychological Science.

Moms’ work-equality beliefs did also color their daughters’ attitudes toward gender roles, but this study found that a stronger predictor of girls’ career goals was the way their dads handled domestic duties. The daughters of parents who shared housework were more likely to tell the researchers they wanted to be a police officer, a doctor, an accountant, or a “scientist (who studies germs to help doctors find what medicine each patient needs),” lead author Alyssa Croft wrote via email, quoting one little girl in the study.”

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Thought for the weekend – you need 4 minutes 30 seconds.

I came across this 4 minute 30 second video and loved it.  There seems a lots of gloom and doom about our environment and where it is at. But, this is different, this is so hopeful, encouraging and incredible. Our world actually does have a plan and there is balance.  I can’t wait to sit down and look at it with my kids!

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So, grab a cuppa, gather the family, relax and enjoy an inspiring, educational start to the weekend. I wonder if any interesting conversations will be started?

( I think it would be great to show to a class at school – a different way to start the day.)

Click on this link here

http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=4904

 

Thought for the weekend: the kitchen table conversation

(Before I start the ‘weekend thought’ I would like to emphasise something – my Mum who has been a wonderful encourager and follower mentioned that my last blog was the first one she has not liked! It was the whole idea of doing something kind with an ulterior motive. I too have struggled with that whole concept as really can kindness be kindness if it has an ulterior motive? Mmmm interesting!)

“Do you mean to say that the cord from my belly button was not joined to your belly button when I was in your tummy?” was the clarifying question asked by one of my boys around the kitchen table. Followed by another child asking “So how did I come to be in your tummy?”

And yes, this did then turn into a full blown birds and bees conversation topped off by the 12 year old informing the 10 year old that “yes, sadly I have to tell you that is really what happens!” But, what a wonderful environment to hear the facts of life, amongst siblings, with laughter and by parents where it can all be put in context.

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The kitchen table is such an amazing place to share, to listen, ask questions, get meaning and form opinions. We are finding that as our children grow older we have to fight for the time amongst all the other activities. Today I was reminded of the importance of it and why it is worth fighting for.

“…..you’ve got to work at every level, but it starts at the kitchen table.  What are parents telling their kids? What are people teaching their friends and family? So many of our attitudes are shaped at the kitchen table …”
(Dumbo Feather Issue 38 page 46.  This quote was in the context of a very interesting conversation with Kon Karapanagiotidis the founder of the Asylum Seeker Resource Centre)

IMG_0669As this weekend approaches, may you find time to relax with friends and family around the kitchen table.
May your conversations be meaningful, fun and thought provoking.
May you be challenged, comforted and loved around the kitchen table.

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Here’s to a year of listening

I want to begin this blog by thanking my followers and those who stumble across my humble words and links. It has been an exciting time for me to read and then share the ‘gems’ that I find. I do hope that you have been as encouraged, helped and challenged as I have! So, a big thankyou from the bottom of my heart for your support and interest, it means so much!

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As this year drew to a close, we did a little exercise with our kids where we reflected on the good things of the year, the difficult things and even the bad! I was surprised that as we finished one of the boys piped up suggesting that we talk about the things that we are looking forward to next year, the things we are not and the things we want to change. And, they were very interested in Mum and Dad’s answers!

It made me realise how capable children are of sharing and listening when we give them the time and the space. They love to be listened to and to know what is happening in adult’s lives.

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Listening and sharing is such a powerful thing and yet at times it is such a difficult thing for us as adults to do. May you find the time to listen to those around you, and be brave to share some of your dreams and challenges with them.

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